Be Kind to yourself
We get it, you want to say goodbye to the 2020 version of yourself and hello to the 2021 version. We are all striving to be the best versions of ourselves in this new year, and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Chances are great that you gained a few pounds or became a bit more untoned as a result of COVID-19 whether you were very inactive or you were eating too much, all we want to say is that you are not alone and that you are part of the majority who feel that way.
Like yourselves, we are eager and ready to turn the page and enter into a new fitness/weight loss/ muscle-building journey this year. We will always support self-improvement as it is one of the core reasons why Fitness Fables exist in the first place. The journey of weight loss can be a tough one since it doesn't come easy. We would say that the majority of our clients have weight loss as their primary reason for visiting us. But now we need to say this as well - We see so many of our clients beat themselves up trying to lose weight. So much so, that one miss-step or missed class makes them feel resentful towards themselves.
We want to make sure that we explicitly get this message across: it's okay to have bad days, it's okay to hit a weight plateau, it's normal to "slip-up" and it's perfectly fine if you do not reach those goals in a short time. We want all of our valued clients to try to be a little more kind towards themselves. Here are a few things you need to avoid when trying to lose weight.
“I cheated today”
Remember that to have a sustainable dietary program that will not make you gain weight, you need to make sure that you have balanced meals and that you do not deprive yourself of anything. We can tell you right now that if you only eat salads and veggies you may slip up someday with a slice of pizza and then immediately feel guilty or ashamed. This happens because we call eating anything "bad" for you cheating. Our attitudes and thought processes concerning "bad food" needs to stop. The key to weight loss is as simple as - burn more energy than you consume. So if you happen to enjoy a Sunday lunch at your parent's house and your Mom made Malvapudding, then we need you to relax. Replace your negative connotations to enjoying something sweet or fattening with positive thoughts of making sure you balance it out with sufficient exercise or making sure you don't fall into any bad habits of eating chocolates when you are stressed or bored. Be kind to yourself.
“I am still the same weight”
It can be extremely disheartening to get onto that scale after weeks of exercise and not see a change or even see that you have gained a few pounds. We would like to remind you that losing centimeters is far better than losing numbers on the scale. At the end of the day, it is about how you feel, not about what the scale says. You might be so fixated on the number on the scale that you fail to see how far you've come, how amazingly toned your body looks, and how many more muscles you have. If there is another underlying issue we suggest talking to your trainer at Fitness Fables. They might recommend more intense strength training and HIIT resistance training. Whatever they recommend overcoming your possible fitness plateau, just know that no workout or exercise is in vain. Every little bit counts and you will thank yourself in the long run. Be kind to yourself.
“I slipped up, I need to start over”
We see this all the time. For some reason, people tend to go "all-in" when they decide that they want to lose weight. They do the most extreme workouts, try the most extreme diets and go through an obscene amount of trouble to reach their goals. Although this approach might seem ideal and proactive, it simply does not last. These people tend to be so hard on themselves that they have a sense of guilt and a need to "punish" themselves by starting all over again. After a weekend of drinking and eating too much they "punish" themselves with more extreme workouts and diets. The best way to start your weight-loss journey is to start where you are, with what you have, and then gradually increasing intensity. When you "slip-up", you simply continue where you left off. Be kind to yourself.
“Social distancing - for the sake of food”
Please don't ever do this. We have seen that some people, especially women tend to avoid certain social gatherings or events just because they think that these events will tempt them to indulge in drinking or eating that will impact their weight. If you have found yourself in a place where you avoid your friend's baby shower because you know there will probably be blue cupcakes with butterfly icing, then we want you to know that you have strayed from what is considered as a "healthy" relationship with food. You need to get control over your temptations to overindulge at social gatherings, food should not control whether you attend them. Eat the damn cupcake, tell your Fitness Fables trainer about it and we will help you work it off on Monday. We will always be kind to you, but you need to be kind to yourself as well.
The bottom line is - We are human beings. We tend to obsess over things like weight loss and our outward appearances and we tend to also indulge in other things such as a little too much cheesecake or one too many beers at the braai. We as humans need to find a balance, don't be too hard on ourselves but most of all we want you to be kind to yourself.